Cold Feet Syndrome
By Lee Asher, Sat Dec 10th
Feelings of anxiety and concern are completely normal prior to awedding. One or both members of the couple may experience thecold phenomenon that overshadows them and causes them tobecome concerned over their upcoming wedding. Usually thisfeeling is not a cause for concern and it passes naturally onits own as your realize that you are more excited than anxiousbut the following are a few tips for helping to work throughyour cold issues. The first tip for dealing with cold is simply to relax andrealize that this happens to a lot of people in your situation.This is important because many people will get caught up inbelieving that these feelings mean that they shouldn’t gothrough with their wedding. Realizing that your feelings arecompletely naturally will help to waylay these fears. After you calm down, get out a piece of paper and pen and juststart listing all of your anxiety. This is particular helpfulbecause you may have a great deal of trouble doing this which issignificant because it helps you to realize that you don’treally have anything to worry about. The other scenario is thatyou may find that you have a long list of fears and may beamused to find that none of them are really logical. Sometimesseeing your concerns listed on paper helps to alleviate them.
Another tip for dealing with cold is to talk to yourpartner about your feelings. Many people are hesitant to thisbecause they are embarrassed about their feelings but talking toyour loved one can really help in this situation. Chances arethat they know you better than anyone and can assist you workingthrough these things. They may even confess similar feelingswhich helps you to realize that cold are completely natural. If you feel that talking to your partner will further exacerbatethe problem consider talking to a close friend instead. Justtalking about your anxiety can help to relieve the tension. Onceyou verbalize your fears you are likely to find that they beginto dissipate and you start to relax
Cookies with httplib
<p>I needed to do a simple http get in the other day, the only catch was that I had to send a cookie. My first thoughts were that this might be tricky, but in practise it's a doddle. Below is a simplistic example passing a cookie (called "Fish", with a value of "Cod") using Python's <a href="http://docs.python.org/lib/module-httplib.html">httplib</a>.</p>
<pre>
import httplib
conn = httplib.HTTPConnection( "www.example.com" )
Headers = {"Cookie" : "Fish=Cod"}
conn.request("GET", "/fishfinder.html", None, Headers )
response = conn.getresponse()
data = response.read()
</pre>
<p>How hard can it be?</p>
Easy security blanket
<p>Back in May del.icio.us announced some changes to their api, in a post curiously titled <a href="http://blog.del.icio.us/blog/2006/05/feel_secure.html">Security blanket</a>.</p>
<p>It took all of two minutes to update my <a href="http://feetup.org/blog/dev/projects.html">linkblogging script</a> (a different url, and https rather than http), source code for which can be found in the usual location: <a href="http://feetup.org/code/py/pydelicious.py.txt">pydelicious.py</a></p>
<p>One gotcha for Pythonistas is that the default win32 build of older versions of Python doesn’t have any ssl support, I’ve tried <a href="http://alldunn.com/python/">Robin Dunn’s drop-in replacement for _socket.pyd</a> and it seems to work fine.</p>
More Delicious tinkering
<p>You may have noticed that I’ve given my <a href="http://feetup.org/blog/dev/python/Delicious-Tinker-One.html">linkblog entry generator</a> a slight revision, the output should be a little more informative with links to the tags used, and a link to the other people linking to each item.</p>
<p>As before, it’s <a href="http://www.gnu.org/copyleft/gpl.html" title="GNU Public License"><span class="caps">GPL</span></a> licensed and the source code is available as: <a href="http://feetup.org/code/py/pydelicious.py.txt">pydelicious.py</a></p>
<p>One odd thing I encountered with <a href="http://dealmeida.net/en/Projects/PyTextile/">pytextile</a> was when I tried being too clever and used a definition list instead of nested unordered lists; definition list are pretty easy to do use in pytextile, but they appear to having a flaw in implementation. Their syntax is simple enough, for example</p>
<p>.bc dl. Monty Python:A British tv comedy series which first aired in 1969</p>
<p>would generate:</p>
<dl>
<dt>Monty Python</dt>
<dd>A British tv comedy series which first aired in 1969</dd>
</dl>
<p>It uses the colon character to split the items up, however if you try to use a link in a definition list things start getting strange. The format for a link is "link text":http://example.com and the definition list code spots the colon and split the link over two items! There’s probably a simple way around this but it’s not in my textile skillset yet.</p>
Python Quickies...
<p>Here's a few nice Python quickies, I know I could have used del.icio.us to
tag them and dump them here, but I wanted to add some more comments than
del.icio.us really allows, so they're here instead.</p>
<p>First off, the invaluable <a href="http://the.taoofmac.com/space/Python/Grimoire">Python Grimoire</a>
a vital resource for someone like me, someone who writes Python too
infrequently and sporadically and hence forgets some of the syntax and the
best <em>Pythonic</em> ways to do routine tasks. Rui's been maintaining it
for a while, but he's now relaunched it in <a href="http://the.taoofmac.com/space/TiddlyWiki">TiddlyWiki</a>
format, this is a great way to read and browse the grimoire, I love it!</p>
<p>Also a couple of nice things from Matt's <a href="http://www.postneo.com/postwiki/moin.cgi/PythonForSeries60">PyS60 wiki page</a>,
the <a href="http://www.bigbold.com/snippets/tags/series60">Series60</a>
tagged items from <a href="http://www.bigbold.com/snippets/">Code Snippets</a> and
<a href="http://simonjudge.com/">Simon Judge's</a> <a href="http://simonjudge.com/pythonfreeware.html">Python freeware</a>,
three handy little PyS60 apps - where's the source Simon? :-)</p>
<p>I've really got to sit down and tinker with PyS60 again, roll on the
26 hour day and the 9 day week...</p>
Del.icio.us tickering, step one
<p>More
<a href="http://feetup.org/blog/linkblog/delicious-tinkering.html">del.icio.us tinkering</a>.</p>
<p>As you've probably seen I've got stage one working successfully,
which creates a daily post of my previous day's del.icio.us items.</p>
<p>I've achieved this using a lightly modified version of
<a href="http://dealmeida.net/">Roberto De Almeida's</a>
python script
<a href="http://dealmeida.net/blosxom/en/Programming/Python/delicious.html">pydelicious</a>
- lightly modified because I don't have the libxml2 module to hand, so
I've substituted Aaron Schwartz's
<a href="http://www.aaronsw.com/2002/xmltramp/">xmltramp</a> instead.</p>
<p>I run this script with cron every morning - the
<a href="http://del.icio.us/doc/api">del.icio.us api</a>
is UTC/GMT based so that suits me quite nicely. The script creates a
new text file containing my links (marked up with textile), which pyblosxom
renders as a new blog post.</p>
<p>My code is available here:
<a href="http://feetup.org/code/py/pydelicious.py.txt">pydelicious.py</a></p>
<p>As per xmltramp and Roberto's original my code is GPL licensed. I
like to think of my contribution as standing on the toes of giants...</p>
<p>Progress reports will follow
<a href="http://www.feetup.org/wiki/DeliciousTinkering">on the wiki</a>.</p>
and look forward to yourupcoming wedding. Another tip for dealing with cold is to talk to a friendwho has recently married to get their perspective on marriedlife. They will be able to tell you how well things are goingfor them which should ease your fears about the transition tomarried life. They will also be able to assure you that they hadsimilar feelings of anxiety and that there is no cause forconcern. Making two lists; one of your fears and one of your reasons formarrying your partner, can help to alleviate cold feet. Once youmake this list you will most likely see that the reasons thatyou want to get married far outweigh your fears. Sometimes justseeing this on paper is very beneficial to eliminating coldfeet. Writing a love letter to your partner can be another way tocombat the feelings of cold feet. This process gives you achance to ponder all the reasons why you love your partner.Expressing your feelings in a love letter can refocus yourattention on what you love most about your partner and make yourealize that the small things you are worrying about are reallyinconsequential. Going through old photos of you and your partner can also helpto ease the anxiety of cold fit. Looking through pictures fromyour courtship is a great way to remind you of all the fun timesyou and your partner have had together and will help you realizethat there are still lots of fun times together in store for thetwo of you. Spending some time away from the planning process is another wayto help alleviate cold feet. Wedding anxiety is often spurred onby other problems such as the stresses of the wedding planning.This stress can put you on edge and make problems seem biggerthan they really are. Take a trip to spa or spend an afternoonparticipating in an activity you enjoy to take your mind off ofall the details that are still remaining for a little while. Finally, if after examining the reason for your cold feet, youcome to realize that there are serious issues at hand it isadvisable to postpone the wedding until these issues can beresolved. If your concerns are valid and your relationship ispotentially harmful either physically or emotionally you mayneed to seek professional help. Issues such as abuse, addictionand betrayal can be reasons to cancel a wedding and discontinuethe relationship. Cold of feelings of anxiety over your impending wedding areperfectly normal. Many brides and grooms have these feelings andin most cases they are completely harmless. It is, however,important to trust your instincts and if there is somethingseriously wrong with your relationship, it may be wise to cancelthe wedding. About the author: Original Source: ArticlesGalore.com
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